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		<title>How to Create New Information Products</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[It can be a very profitable pursuit. If you have a very compelling or in-demand topic for an information product, it is a start of a possible money-making machine. However, finding time and motivation to create such product may prove to be difficult.
The worst mistake is making products that people will never want. You just [...]


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It can be a very profitable pursuit. If you have a very compelling or in-demand topic for an information product, it is a start of a possible money-making machine. However, finding time and motivation to create such product may prove to be difficult.</p>
<p><strong>The worst mistake is making products that people will never want.</strong> You just wasted your time and effort. It is very important to carefully plan and by carefully examining the market. Market research is the first thing you should do. Understanding the trends and desires of the public will help you decide which direction to go in.</p>
<p><strong>Sometimes however, trial and error is the better approach in this endeavor.</strong> Experience is still the best teacher. It can give you a better understanding of the buying public. Some products may bomb and others may surprise you. But the most important is to stay keen and observant. The more you get a feel for the inclinations of the market; the more you can create effective information products.</p>
<p><strong>Considering all of these, it is essential to have a specific target of buyers in mind.</strong> Ask yourself if these people are willing to spend money for your prospective product. Then inquire into how much are they willing to spend. Can they afford high-end products? Or will low-end mass-distributed products do the trick?</p>
<p><strong>Focus on your niche.</strong> It is the most critical part of the process. It will help you concentrate and focus if you have a goal in mind.</p>
<p><strong>The next thing to do is to make the product.</strong> You can employ professional help with the technical stuff. If you want to produce e-books you can hire a proofreader or get help from a capable family member or a friend. You can even use ghost writers if you want to.</p>
<p><strong>Upon completion of your prototype information products, you should test it before investing large amounts of money into the project.</strong> Give it to family and friends for feedback or you can provide samples for individuals that are pre-selected to test your products in a particular demographic. The feedback and reactions you get help to give you an indication to the probable success or failure of your product.</p>
<p>Fine tune your information product if you deem it to be necessary. Now, if you are happy with the feedback and satisfied with the product, prepare a platform in which you can sell or provide the product to the public. The trend nowadays, is through the Internet Online selling or distributing is the way to go right now.</p>
<p>Most likely, you already have a website with a relevant content to your product. If you don&#8217;t have one, create a site for your product. Let the site become a marketing vehicle for your information product. Technical stuff like SEO and link building for web traffic must be implemented. More visitors equates to better chances of selling the product you have created.</p>
<p>Creating and selling information products is a continuous process. Be vigilant about the market&#8217;s drifts and desires.</p>
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		<title>Why Dr Jekyll would not be a good business buyer</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[We’re all familiar with the story about Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde; the person with two completely different personalities.  Just as there are different types of buyers with different motivations, there are also buyers with different types of personalities.  If you’re planning on buying a business or if you own a business that you want [...]


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We’re all familiar with the story about Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde; the person with two completely different personalities.  Just as there are different types of buyers with different motivations, there are also buyers with different types of personalities.  If you’re planning on buying a business or if you own a business that you want to sell, here are some Dr. Jekyll “traits” that would discourage a seller revealing too much information about their business.</p>
<h2>1.  Job Seeker</h2>
<p>Try to establish this one early on as they are a complete time waster.  Asking for a financial statement generally takes care of them.  They have no money and no ambition.  They don&#8217;t like their current job so if they find the perfect business with zero down payment, they will be made.  There are quite a few job seekers out there so flush these out early.</p>
<h2>2.  Investor Using Other People&#8217;s Money</h2>
<p>The investor is the person using other people&#8217;s money and presents themselves as a cash buyer or leader of an investment syndicate authorized to buy a viable business for sale.  Once again they can be a time waster so isolate them quickly.  The best way to do that is by either requesting a financial statement or request a meeting of all parties that are investing in the business.  If the investor lives interstate or overseas you have your answer – would you lend money to a friend or family member to buy a business you will rarely see?</p>
<h2>3.  Savior</h2>
<p>This person generally has a couple of traits.  Often they love to talk and have fairly strong opinions; which can give them credibility, but they present themselves as the person which is going to buy the business to turn it around and keep the jobs of all the employees.  The quickest way to isolate this one is to ask for a financial statement as chances are they won&#8217;t have any money.</p>
<h2>4.  All Cash</h2>
<p>The all cash buyer is tricky because you so want to believe they are genuine and that your business is the perfect match for them.  They know this, hence the reason they claim to be a cash buyer.  However, all they do is waste your time because the cash doesn&#8217;t exist.  If they had that much cash, they would use that money to buy a more expensive business that produces a greater cash flow.</p>
<p>One of the all cash buyer&#8217;s tricky behaviors is to convince you that they are genuine and then use the lure of being a cash buyer to reduce your price.  It is very easy to flush this buyer out—simply ask for a verification of funds and make sure the proof is an original document—not a photocopy.  It is perfectly fine that they redact the account number or other sensitive information.</p>
<h2>5.  Obstinate</h2>
<p>This one is really easy to identify: lots of talk, lots of promises and seemingly the perfect buyer (similar to the all cash buyer).  But the obstinate buyer refuses to sign the confidentiality agreement.  The solution to this one is really simple.  Move on and don&#8217;t waste any more time with them.  If someone refuses to sign a confidentiality agreement, imagine how difficult they will be when you are getting into detailed negotiations.</p>
<p><em>If you’d like more information on selling your business, visit my website <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.andrew-rogerson.com/">http://www.Andrew-Rogerson.com</a> and buy my book &#8211; Successfully Sell Your Business: Expert Advice from a Business Broker.  This 144 page book takes you through the process from start to finish on the steps to selling a business.  There are also many things you can spend time on improving your business to maximize your selling price.  These ideas should all be in your business plan.  If you do not have a  business plan, now’s the time to create one.  If you would like a free template, visit my website <a rel="nofollow" target="_blank" href="http://www.andrew-rogerson.com/sample-documents">www.Andrew-Rogerson.com/sample-documents</a> and download option 8.</em></p>
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<p>Andrew is a 5-time business owner that loves helping entrepreneurs exit or enter business ownership.  His services include business brokerage; helping owners sell and/or buyers purchase a business.  He also provides consulting on purchasing a franchise, certified machinery and equipment appraisals and business valuations.  Andrew is a CBI with the International Business Brokers Association and CBB with the California Association of Business Brokers.  He also carries a Brokers License from the California Dept. of Real Estate, is a member of the Sacramento Metro Chamber of Commerce and the Sacramento Chair of the California Association of Business Brokers.</p>
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		<title>Online Money Making Business – 3 Deadly Errors You Should Evade!</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are you looking for an online money making business opportunity? Wondering if this is a hand off business? If you think so, you might need to think again. Before you make your final decision to start your own internet business, you should be aware of these three deadly errors most newbie would make.
1. Not Ready
You [...]


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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Are you looking for an online money making business opportunity? Wondering if this is a hand off business? If you think so, you might need to think again. Before you make your final decision to start your own internet business, you should be aware of these three deadly errors most newbie would make.</p>
<p><strong>1. Not Ready</strong></p>
<p>You must ask yourself if you are ready to start an online money making business. If you have many other commitments on hand, chances are you will not do well in your online business. Running an internet business take time and effort to achieved results. Nothing comes free!</p>
<p><strong>2. Do Not Like Working From Home</strong></p>
<p>Do you enjoy working from home without all the traffic woes? If you prefer traveling to an office building or a common workplace then this business might not be for you. Also, at the beginning you need to work alone unless you can get a friend or a family member to work with you together in this online business.</p>
<p><strong>3. No Discipline</strong></p>
<p>You have set aside a few hours each day or week to work on your business. No procrastination allowed if you want to achieve results. Especially if you are looking into making good money in an online business in the shortest time possible, you have to spend more time and effort on it. Laziness or lame excuses will never get you anywhere!</p>
<p>Finally, if you are ready to venture into an online money making business, make sure you pay attention the above three deadly mistakes before you jump in! By avoiding the oversight, you minimizing the risk involved and protect yourself from disappointment!</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Rita’s physical frame could not support her emotional weight. She leaned against the living room door frame, slid down and slumped to the floor, all the while moving her head back and forth as if she could shake off the crushing burden of grief that wracked her body. Her breathing was shallow; her chest felt constricted, her sobbing came in bursts. All Rita knew in that moment was the pain of loss. When her breathing relaxed and Rita felt a little stronger, she pulled herself up from the floor and made her way to the couch to sit down. There she buried her face in her hands and sobbed out loud-the wall of a mother’s anguish.
<p>Working Your Way Through </p>
<p>Rita was experiencing intense grief emotions. Seven months earlier, her daughter had been killed in an automobile accident. Rita was still finding her way along the road of grief, through a void that could never be filled, to a life that would be forever different. Intense grief emotions such as those Rita experienced are not a sign of psychological problems, mental illness or an inability to cope. They are a natural response to a loss that goes deep, such as the death of a family member or other loved one. Though they are painful, the good news is that they do pass, and in the meantime you can listen and learn from them, and even heal and grow strong through them. Here are a few ways to do so. </p>
<p>Realize There Is Nothing “Wrong” With You </p>
<p>Intense grief emotions are difficult to describe to those who have not experienced them. They can and often do come to us at unexpected times, sometimes with no warning and with no evident “trigger”. They can be frequent in the days, weeks and months immediately following a severe loss, usually lessening in frequency and intensity with good grieving and the blessed passing of time. Difficult as they might be intense grief emotions are not uncommon, nor are they cause for alarm. In her book How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies, Dr. Therese Rando notes that grief can be severe and might make you “conclude that you have lost touch with reality and are going crazy.” And she offers assurance: “you are not.” </p>
<p>Do Not Try To Escape Or Avoid Intense Grief Emotions </p>
<p>Intense emotions can be frightening and exhausting and they can immobilize us for a short period of time. They can also be awkward, depending on where we are and who we’re with when the emotions flood through us. But they are not abnormal; they are not permanently debilitating. “I was in a restaurant with my brother about seven weeks after my wife died,” recalls Brent. “I had to excuse myself from the table and go outside to the parking lot for a while.” Especially in the early weeks and months following a loss, be aware that your experiences of grief may be especially intense at times. Be patient and flexible with yourself; respect the emotions, take the time you need to allow them to be -and to pass. </p>
<p>Listen And Learn From Your Intense Emotions </p>
<p>“Grief work” is often an “inside job.” After an experience of feeling intense grief emotions, take a period of quiet time to go “inside” your thoughts and see what your emotions might be telling you about the challenges and changes you now face. Perhaps the void left in your life suggests you need to take greater responsibility in certain areas. Perhaps your intense grief emotions are pointing you in the direction of a deeper experience of faith. You may find that your loss has left you questioning your sense of worth. Listen well to what your intense emotions are teaching you about good grieving, healing and identifying and accepting the changes you now face. “No matter how much it hurts and it may be the greatest pain in life-grief can be an end in itself, a pure expression of love.” </p>
<p>Talk And Talk Some More </p>
<p>Talk about your loved one. Telling stories about your deceased loved one is a way to process the new reality of that person’s physical absence. Those who care about you will listen with attentive love. Bob Deits, author of Life after Loss, says that talking about a deceased loved one “helps every bit as much as having air to breathe and food to eat-and for basically the same reason: survival. The parent who has lost a child or the widowed person who is alone for the first time in 50 years is terrified that they might forget the smallest detail of their lost loved one. I hear such people begging just to hear the name of the one who is deceased.” It also helps to talk about your intense grief emotions. Say the words out loud: “I sobbed until my body shook.” “I had to lean against the wall for support.” “I felt like the grief was actually physical.” Share these experiences with a trusted friend, a professional counselor, or those in a support group. When you hear your own voice put into words how you survived an experience of intense grief, you see and name your own healing strength. </p>
<p>Take The Time You Need </p>
<p>Grief knows no timeline. Do not impose on yourself a schedule based on previous experiences of grief or what well intentioned friends and loved ones might suggest. You will face these emotions as long as you need to-and the time you need often depends on variables such as what or who you are grieving, the details of the loss, your support systems, childhood memories, guilt and fear associated with your loss, and your current relationships, health and lifestyle. Let time-all the time you need-be a gentle and healing friend. In her supportive book The Mourning Handbook, Helen Fitzgerald emphasizes the importance of taking the time you need. She is forthright about time and offers hope: “Keeping in mind the definition of grief as “intense emotional suffering,” you can look forward, at some point to an end to these over whelming emotions.” </p>
<p>Reach Our For Support </p>
<p>It was a decisive moment in my life. I sat at the kitchen table crushed with loss and overwhelmed with sadness, fear and anger. As I looked around the kitchen, I could hear all the familiar household sounds the purr of the refrigerator, the tick of the wall clock, the television in the living room. In that moment when the world around me seemed oblivious to my emotional death, I desperately tried to locate something that would offer a harbor or relief from the pain. Anything I just wanted to stop hurting. Then I saw it: the bottle of scotch behind the toaster. I stared at it for a long moment, imagining its burning taste and longing for the tranquil sea of numbness I would find at the bottom of the bottle. I also looked at the telephone. “Or I could call Jean.” I called Jean. She said she’d be right over-or I could grab a toothbrush and come to her house. I went to her house. I will believe for the rest of my life that the power of grace and my willingness to reach out for help kept me from taking a detour in life down the road toward alcoholism and hopelessness. I recall that moment with tremendous humility and gratitude-the night grace and friendship took my hand to steady me through intense grief emotions toward the path of healing. In addition to friends and loved ones, people in grief support groups are some of your best allies when you experience intense grief emotions. These companions are treading the same painful path you are. The details of their stories might be different, but the emotional void and struggle they face every day are basically the same as yours. Unlike anyone else, they can hear your anguish and identify with what you are enduring. Margo Steinberg, M.S.W., L.C.S.W., notes that bereavement groups have a strong, positive impact on participants and provide a “safe haven…for emotional expression and release of feelings.” Reaching out to the members of a grief support group is not an act of weakness; it is a choice for healing. Over time, you will find that the give and take of sharing with others in a bereavement group is one of the greatest satisfactions along your healing path. </p>
<p>Take Heart </p>
<p />In companion through the Darkness: Inner Dialogues on Grief, Stephanie Ericsson names grief as the “constant reawakening that things are now different.” The loss of a loved one leaves everything different -except love. Our intense grief emotions are the result of equally intense grief emotions of love. We would not feel the pain of loss had we not loved deeply. Rita had given life to her daughter. She had cradled her precious child in her arms, held her hand as she took her first steps, guided her through school, and wept tears of joy at her wedding. Like Rita’s experience, your intense grief emotions are normal and natural result of your love. And the power of that love lives on to help you heal and grow strong.<br />
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